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Parental Anxiety: How to Recognize The Signs & Find Relief

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From concern over your child’s health and safety to navigating the complexities of their emotional, social and academic development – parenting can be a never-ending emotional roller coaster ride. As busy parents, we can all relate. There is nothing easy about parenting – particularly in this day and age. Juggling work, childcare and the household is stress and anxiety inducing enough. Add in worries about social media and the growing children's mental health crisis and it’s easy to grasp why more parents are searching for answers about burnout and parental anxiety.

What is parental anxiety?

Parental anxiety stems from the immense responsibility of raising a child and the natural desire to protect and nurture them. At its core, it is fueled by the fear of the unknown and the unpredictable nature of raising children. Every parent wants the best for their child, and this desire can sometimes translate into excessive worry. The pressure to be a perfect parent, societal expectations, and comparing oneself to others can exacerbate these feelings. Additionally, major life changes such as starting school, moving to a new home, or significant health issues can trigger heightened anxiety.

It's normal to worry about your child's well-being, but when these worries become all-consuming and interfere with daily life, they may suggest a deeper struggle with parental anxiety.. Recognizing the difference between normal parental concerns and anxiety is crucial - not only for your well-being but also for fostering a positive and nurturing environment for your child. If you’re asking yourself, “Is this level of stress normal?” or “Why can’t I stop worrying about my child?”, these could be signs that you’re experiencing parental anxiety rather than just temporary stress.

Identifying Symptoms of Parental Anxiety & Burnout:

Parental anxiety and burnout can be subtle, gradually affecting a parent's life over time. It often manifests through a range of physical, emotional, and behavioral symptoms:

  • Physically, parents may experience chronic fatigue, muscle tension, frequent headaches, sleep problems or a change in appetite. These physical symptoms can stem from constant worry and stress, leading to a cycle of poor sleep and ongoing fatigue that further exacerbates anxiety. Parents are so stressed and exhausted that they can't enjoy family time. In some cases, this burnout leads to agitation, irritability or withdrawal from their significant others or their children.
  • Emotionally, parental anxiety can present as persistent worry, fear and even depression. Parents might find themselves constantly preoccupied with thoughts about their child's well-being, safety, and future. This excessive worry can lead to feelings of helplessness, irritability, guilt or inadequacy, believing they are not doing enough for their child. Parents may also develop feelings of sadness as early as the child’s birth or later upon learning that parenting intensifies existing mental health challenges. And it’s not just moms — parents of any gender can have these feelings.
  • Behaviorally, parental anxiety can influence a parent's actions and interactions with their child. Overprotectiveness is a common response, as anxious parents may feel the need to control every aspect of their child's life to ensure their safety and well-being. This behavior may stem from a place of love, but it can lead to micromanaging activities and limiting independence.

Recognizing these symptoms is the first step. It's important for parents to reflect on their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and consider how these may be influenced by anxiety. Discussing concerns with a fellow parent or even a therapist can also provide comforting insights, including an understanding that these feelings are common and that you are not alone.

Tips For Busy Parents Managing Parental Anxiety & Burnout:

Parents today are both working more and spending more time in childcare compared to two decades ago. That means they're spending "less time taking care of themselves and recuperating." When parents don't prioritize their well-being, it can have a negative effect on family life. The mental health of parents and kids are deeply intertwined. Left unchecked, parental anxiety and burnout can strain parent-child relationships, lead to behavioral and emotional problems in kids and create unhealthy coping mechanisms in families.

Making time for your well-being is easier said than done. But never forget that as a parent: you are allowed to thrive; to be emotionally healthy; and to have joy, rest and recharge. You are allowed to have these things. For the sake of your kids, take the time to properly care for yourself. Your sleep, your time with friends, your diet, your quiet time aren't indulgences—they’re necessary for your mental wellness.

By integrating these practical tips into your daily life, you can manage your anxiety and burnout more effectively and create a healthier, more supportive environment for both yourself and your family.

1. Prioritize Self-Care

Self-care is the foundation of mental well-being and one of the most effective ways to prevent parental burnout. As a parent, it's essential to carve out time for activities that rejuvenate and relax you. Regular exercise, whether it's a brisk walk, yoga, or a workout at the gym, can significantly reduce stress levels. Eating a balanced diet and ensuring you get enough sleep are also critical components of self-care. Engaging in hobbies or activities that bring you joy and fulfillment can help replenish your energy and improve your mood.

2. Practice Mindfulness & Relaxation Techniques

Mindfulness and relaxation techniques can be powerful tools in managing anxiety. Mindfulness involves staying present in the moment and observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Techniques such as deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, and meditation can help calm your mind and reduce anxiety. Incorporating these practices into your daily routine can provide a sense of control and tranquility.

3. Reduce Your Mental Load

Do you find yourself doing all the planning, decision-making and problem-solving in your household? That invisible labor is called the "mental load," and it's a major contributor to parental burnout. Particularly mothers, who are responsible for 70% of the mental load tasks at home, like planning meals and managing household finances. If you're feeling overwhelmed, sit down with your spouse and make three lists: your parenting and household tasks, your spouse's, and any shared roles. Reassign chores to lighten your load and remove any unnecessary tasks entirely. Then, set up weekly check-ins to go over schedules and tasks as needed.

4. Seek Professional Help

There is no shame in seeking professional help when dealing with parental anxiety. Therapists and counselors are trained to provide support and strategies to manage anxiety effectively. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for anxiety, helping you identify and challenge negative thought patterns. Regular therapy sessions, whether weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly, can provide continuous support and guidance. Support groups and parenting classes can also offer valuable insights and a sense of community. Don't hesitate to seek help whenever you feel overwhelmed, as professional support can be crucial for maintaining long-term mental health.

5. Manage Your Time & Stay Organized

Effective time management and organization can reduce feelings of overwhelm and stress. Creating a balanced schedule that includes time for work, family, and self-care is crucial. Prioritize tasks, set realistic goals, and break larger tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Using tools like planners, calendars, or apps can help you stay organized and feel more in control of your daily life.

6. Build A Support Network

Having a strong support network is vital for reducing parental anxiety. Connecting with other parents through parenting groups, community events, or online forums can provide a sense of camaraderie and shared experience. Don't hesitate to lean on friends and family for support, whether it's for advice, a listening ear, or practical help with childcare.

7. Implement Positive Parenting Strategies

Positive parenting strategies can help reduce anxiety by fostering a more harmonious and supportive family environment. Techniques such as active listening, where you fully engage and validate your child's feelings, can strengthen your relationship and reduce conflict. Positive reinforcement, acknowledging and rewarding your child's good behavior, can encourage a more positive dynamic. Setting clear boundaries and consistent routines can also provide a sense of stability and predictability, reducing stress for both you and your child.

8. Develop A Long-Term Mental Health Plan

Managing parental anxiety is an ongoing process. Developing a long-term mental health plan that includes regular check-ins with yourself and adjustments as needed is essential. Continuing education on parenting and anxiety management can also provide new insights and strategies. Stay open to learning and adapting as your child grows and your parenting journey evolves.

Let Us Help

By prioritizing your mental health, you not only improve your well-being but also set a positive example for your children. Develop a comprehensive mental health plan, establish healthy habits, foster strong relationships, and embrace flexibility to create a more balanced and fulfilling parenting experience. Remember that managing anxiety is an ongoing process and seeking continuous support and education can make a significant difference.

TrustCare’s Mental Health and Wellness Services provide accessible, high-quality mental health support for adolescents and adults, with minimal wait times, if not same-day appointments. Program Administrator Thomas Howington, MSN, RN, PMHNP-BC has an exceptional reputation for diagnosing, treating and managing mental health disorders for patients of all ages, including adults experiencing symptoms of parental anxiety, burnout or depression. To learn more or schedule a secure virtual visit or in-person appointment with him, click here.


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